Saturday, June 2, 2007

Misery: the secret to happiness




The key to a happy relationship could be accepting that some miserable times are unavoidable, experts say.
Therapists from California State University, Northridge and Virginia Tech say accepting these problems is better than striving for perfection.
And they blame cultural fairytales and modern love stories for perpetuating the myth that enjoying a perfect relationship is possible.
The report was published in the Journal of Marital and Family Therapy.
The authors, Dr Diane Gehart and Dr Eric McCollum say it is a "myth that, with enough effort we can achieve a state without suffering."
And they say healthcare professionals may not be helping the situation.
"The field of mental health perpetuates this myth with the very concept of "mental health," which implies a state without suffering," they say.

What do you guys think???? Do you guys really think by accepting misery??

15 comments:

Anonymous said...

not accepting "misery" but realizing that like everything else in this world - it's not all rainbows and butterflies - there has to be a few downs along with the ups... but not abusive or destructive downs! But yeah people should be accepting of their partner's differences rather than aiming to change them :P

And I so agree about fairytales - it's disney's fault - i think we should sue ;)

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Nomad said...

i always thought that this is normal. the ups and downs and i always used to disagree with fairytales... its not real life. and as the sayin goes no pain no gain.
and lol i agree with cix we should sue ;p

lace camisole said...

cixou--i agree regarding accepting ur significant others difference, and i dont think any one should change the way they are just to please someone else but im a strong believer of compromising.

hahaha...ya we should sue disney for making us believe in fairytales ;P

nomad-- having ups and downs is normal however it always seems that the downs are more than ups dont u agree??? well i guess it depends on how you see ur glass..half full or empty !!

lets all sue then :D

Nomad said...

well the downs are always more than the ups. thats what make the ups so special ;p and yes a compromise is a must in order to reduce the amount of downs. at least thats what i think ;p

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